r/AskReddit Sep 24 '22 Silver 1 Helpful 1 All-Seeing Upvote 1

People who like having conversations with random people, why?

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u/Canooter Sep 24 '22 edited Sep 25 '22

Some people just have really neat life stories.

I kind of wish there was a sub where you could just… write about your life experiences. So many people have just experienced wild or heartbreaking or inspiring things. It’s just neat to read about.

Edit: Hey yo I didn’t expect there to be so much interest in something like this. It seems like people are going to breathe life back into r/life_stories, so I’d keep an eye on it.

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u/mcjc94 Sep 25 '22

I specially like talking with people from other countries, or people that got a specific point of view on certain historical events.

Or straight up, people with different lives than my own. Gives you a lot of perspective about the world.

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u/MusicalNerDnD Sep 24 '22

Be the change you wish to see in the world, go make that sub!

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u/Skyraider96 Sep 24 '22 edited Sep 25 '22 Silver

There is r/Life_stories but it is dead. I just requested to mod it tho.

Edit: And that took all of 5 seconds. Lol. I am now a mod of it.

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u/DoctorSalt Sep 25 '22

Tell us your life story of becoming a mod

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u/probablypoo Sep 25 '22

" it all started when I found the abandoned sub /r/life_stories. I requested to be made a mod which got accepted within seconds. I opened a bottle of wine to celebrate this little victory. Little did I know that this was the beginning of the end and the start of my drinking problem.."

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u/tryingmydarnbest Sep 25 '22

That’s gonna take a whole 5 seconds to write lol

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u/I_Only_Reply_At_Work Sep 25 '22

Sometimes the best stories are the shortest ones

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u/porchprovider Sep 25 '22

Hijack; Old people.

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u/itsyobbiwonuseek Sep 25 '22

Skyraider96: Can I be a mod?

Ex-Mod: You sure?

Skyraider96: Yeah

Ex-Mod: Ok

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u/CostPsychological Sep 25 '22

Ex-Mod: Thank you Skyraider96, now my soul if finally free....

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u/thatChristian26 Sep 25 '22

Let’s all head over there! I’m with this guy that everyone has a life story and it’s super interesting. I’ll post one part of my life and if there is more interest I’ll post the rest.

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u/smutteredtoast Sep 25 '22

I would also be willing to help mod it if youd like! I sent a message.

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u/tulipz10 Sep 25 '22

I'd like to hear that story!

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u/mildlydepression Sep 25 '22

eyo genuinely how did you become a mod?

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u/Skyraider96 Sep 25 '22

The sub had a "request to be a mod" post because it was dead.

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u/Ohfdge Sep 24 '22

I agree! Sadly, I’ve got a whole slew of experiences to share.

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u/sylvanwhisper Sep 25 '22 Wholesome

I really value stories. An old man at an apple orchard told me a short tale of the time he had to move 1400 peach trees in the span of 24 hours. There's something about the transference of stories that feels magical to me.

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u/VexMilkBrownies Sep 25 '22

When going to grocery stores, I’ve tried several lines to help start a conversation with the cashier (being a cashier many years ago, I always appreciated sincere souls who tried to make my day better).

The line that’s yielded the most success for me is, “How’s your day been?”

I’ve learned of one fellow’s theater aspirations, another’s deer-related accident the night before, an older gent’s theories of current events, and other interesting stories. My favorite happened recently when the cashier said he was tired because he was up late. I asked if he was a gamer, then learned he plays the same video game I do. Had a lovely nerd-out session.

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u/Canooter Sep 25 '22

Gamer nerds unite!

Separately!

In our own homes!

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u/JudgementWaterfall Sep 25 '22

As a cashier currently, I sometimes feel bad for the good-intentioned folks who try this, because I am just not a small-talker. I'm pretty shy with strangers, and just try to get through my job, so my responses are probably disappointingly brief.

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u/pm-me-racecars Sep 25 '22

As someone who enjoys talking to people, don't feel bad for being who you are. Not everyone is into talking to random people, and that's okay. People liking different things, and being comfortable in different situations, is part of what makes life beautiful.

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u/Unlucky_Most_8757 Sep 25 '22

I'm a waitress but I get this sentiment. I feel like people expect me to just lay out all these life goals or talk about the kids I have or whatever when really none of that is happening. More often than not it just makes me feel like a loser because I'm just trying to make it through the day lol however I will always lend an ear to their struggles or happy life stories

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u/Otherwise_Window Sep 25 '22

As a chatty person: don't worry about it.

You don't owe anyone your energy like that. If people can't take a hint from your brief answers that's on them.

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u/Sweet_Cinnabonn Sep 25 '22

I never mind brief.

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u/Sellier123 Sep 25 '22

This is why i love talking to old ppl in real life. If i ever go anywhere (which i dont usually lol) ill always go and chat with the old guy sitting in the corner alone. Always get the wildest life stories lol

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u/Ronw12 Sep 25 '22

I’ll try this every time, especially if I see an older person,man typically, that is whittling I will for sure stop and try to chat with him. My dad liked to whittle on porch and people would walk through his neighborhood and stop to chat, he met so many people like that. I sure do miss the talks and life advice he would give me. Rest In Peace pop

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u/Confident-Owl-6696 Sep 25 '22

I sat with my grandmother ( b. 1900) for years listening about her stories from “ the old country” ( Russia)eventually we got it all written down and my brother put it together in book form and shared it with our family. To me, this is important stuff. She once told me about how the last Czar and his family walked by her house- sadly to their eventual execution- she also commented on how lucky we have it now with birth control…. She died at 98 outliving 8 of her 9 kids. I still miss her every day.

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u/luminous-melange Sep 25 '22

Absolutely. Also making connections with people.

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u/RainbowToast2 Sep 25 '22

Um, read the first post. The sub is unpredictable just so everyone is aware. Weird.

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u/Canooter Sep 25 '22

Yeah, it definitely needs mods.

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u/RainbowToast2 Sep 25 '22

It does indeed, and apparently that’s happening so, good luck to everyone reviving it!

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u/hippiechick725 Sep 24 '22

I’d be cool with that!

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u/Cuesport77 Sep 25 '22

I went to a nature center once, and one of the workers came up to my group and started having a lengthy conversation about his life (background, education, family) completely unprompted. Like, extremely detailed. He kept following us around the center after that. I was a bit weirded out, but I figured he just enjoyed what he did, being around people, and educating them, so I just went along with it.

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u/tensileutensil Sep 24 '22 Wholesome

It is fun to seize a fleeting funny moment with another person if you don’t know anyone there at the time.

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u/Raspberry_poop Sep 25 '22

This is how I feel. A funny moment or a similar experience... Maybe we suffered waiting a long time or saw something really weird. Fun to share the moment with someone, even if you don't know them.

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u/tensileutensil Sep 25 '22

Absolutely agree. The freedom to openly and civilly talk about your situation is so calming

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u/powerfulKRH Sep 25 '22

Nothing brings strangers together like some crazy weirdo doing insane shit in the distance

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u/psykokittie Sep 25 '22

If I’m cranky, sometimes I’ll start a conversation with a random person and “act as if” I’m in a good mood. It will typically change my frame of mind and put me in a better mindset.

Side note: I highly recommend “acting as if” as a strategy to deal with awkward/stressful/uncomfortable situations.

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u/-newlife Sep 25 '22

In my life there are two situations that stand out. One about 6 months ago where this woman told me a joke she just thought of. I don’t remember the joke but her laugh and joy at telling it were awesome.

The other one is from around 1997. I was going into the Indio fashion mall and a woman on her way out stopped me to tell me that her grandson just took his first steps that morning. Being able to share in someone’s joy is special.

The way I approach it, if people randomly share joy with me then I’m likely in a good place mentally to be able to receive such joy.

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u/ConfidentValue6387 Sep 25 '22

I think one of the perks of it is that it can give you a tiny sense of community even if you happen to live in a big city.

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u/E_Snap Sep 24 '22

You can have casual, meaningless, relaxing, and brief conversations with random people that would otherwise seem low-effort and lame with friends.

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u/MrsTurtlebones Sep 24 '22

In my job I do this 30-50 times a day. I work with the public in a fairly relaxed setting and some days can't believe I'm getting paid to chat with people pleasantly all day, although my company does provide a valuable service. Just through casual conversation during the transaction, I learn interesting things every day! Somehow after over 35 years in the workforce I've landed on the perfect job for my skillset as a people-loving introvert.

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u/BreakingPipes Sep 25 '22

"People loving introvert" I like that.

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u/candlehand Sep 25 '22

What makes you consider yourself an introvert?

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u/MrsTurtlebones Sep 25 '22

That being around other people drains my energy, whereas an extrovert draws their energy from others. Thus, as much as I love people, I have to have alone time to recharge or I'll plotz.

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u/eatMYcookieCRUMBS Sep 25 '22

Same. I asked if they were paying together or separate.

"Fuck that bitch, we aren't cool like that. "

I also get to eavesdrop sometimes.

"Who is that?"

"It's a picture of my step sister. "

"I would let her RUIN my life. "

Suddenly my week is better.

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u/Spockward Sep 24 '22 edited Sep 25 '22

I am quite literally incapable of having a relaxing spontaneous conversation with a stranger.

Edit: I can tell that I wasn't clear in my initial phrasing. I can have a spontaneous conversation with a stranger. I'm actually quite good at conversating. I think I'm a good listener and an interesting person.

What I CANNOT do, is relax during that conversation. Anxiety is a bitch. (And if any of the people offering advice or pointing out that this is a conversation with strangers had read my comment closely enough to realize that I never said I was incapable of spontaneous conversations with strangers, those spontaneous conversations with strangers wouldn't be so goddamn stressful.)

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u/jew_biscuits Sep 25 '22

I 100 percent understand this. You try to be natural but in your head you’re like: “I am talking to a fellow human.”

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u/Spockward Sep 25 '22

Hello fellow human. I am enjoying this normal conversation we are having, as the humans do.

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u/maximusamare Sep 24 '22

Don’t look now but you’re right now having a conversation with strangers. It’s literally what Reddit is

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u/miasabine Sep 24 '22

Online and IRL are two different beasts. If I take 40 minutes to reply IRL, people will just leave.

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u/Sonoshitthereiwas Sep 24 '22

Just need to find someone equally as awkward and anxious in IRL

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u/miasabine Sep 24 '22

Interestingly, my partner is the exact opposite of me in that respect. He’s chatty, confident, easy going, socially aware. I on the other hand will trip over my words and lay awake every night for 17 years agonising over that time I embarrassed myself in front of a complete stranger.

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u/HiddenCity Sep 25 '22

Sounds stupid, but you need to practice. I used to make an effort to make small talk and get out if my comfort zone (originally because of dating), and now it just comes naturally. It's nice to have a flash of humanity evert once and a while in your day.

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u/Spockward Sep 25 '22

This is very kind advice. Please see my edit, though

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u/Dori664 Sep 24 '22

Even if they judge you it doesn't really matter cause in the end they are a random person n probably gonna forget bout it

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u/BookLuvr7 Sep 24 '22 Silver

I figure I have something I can learn from everyone I encounter. Even if it's how I don't want to be.

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u/BZLuck Sep 24 '22

Someone once told me that everyone you meet knows something you don’t.

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u/FearNot_The_Reaper Sep 24 '22

Yeah and the internet has all that information so stop asking me where the closest coffee shop is

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u/shaking-statue Sep 24 '22 Helpful

So it's like an RPG and you just do all the side quests

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u/Layne205 Sep 24 '22 Silver

I wish real life people would be like "hey buddy, is there any way you could deliver these fish to a far away town for me?" And you're like "sure thing!" but then you take his fish and just carry them around with you for the rest of your life.

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u/B_Sharp_or_B_Flat Sep 24 '22

That’s how life was before telephone/radio. At least that’s what I’d like to imagine.

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u/sowhat4 Sep 25 '22

It was like that with landline telephones and radios which were plugged into a wall. The big change came with the smart phones.

I've had some really, really interesting conversations with people - some shocking even. Anyway, it's intriguing, and I learn things. (Like when this stranger who said that he went to a Catholic schools and the nuns were so strict about sex that he had not had an orgasm in the last 25 years ... and then he burst into tears. Everyone in the car repair waiting room was gradually listening in on our conversation as he got more and more agitated. Better than web surfing. - was in maybe 1978 or so,)

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u/B_Sharp_or_B_Flat Sep 25 '22

I was alive for pre-smart phone and pre-internet - still remember my old home number lol - but not old enough to have really experienced it.

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u/sowhat4 Sep 25 '22

I remember standing on a chair to access the wooden telephone box which housed a party line. An operator had to ring the number you were calling. Even after dialed telephones with a single handset were invented, you had to call the operator to place a long-distance call. Radios, BTW, had these vacuum tubes that lit up when the set was on. We'd listen to radio programs at night...Jack Benny and 'The Shadow Knows' were two that I remember as well as all the soap operas during the day.

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u/BBQ_Beanz Sep 25 '22

I remember when my neighbor needed to borrow a shovel or something i would just go leave it on their front porch. It would reappear on my porch a couple days later. Didn't even need to call the landline. No live update on my shovel. I had to knock on my friends door to see if they were home. That's another thing: there were plenty of reasons not to answer the phone even if you were home, so you had to go in person sometimes.

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u/eggsnomellettes Sep 24 '22

Lol what a funny but insane suggestion

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u/BigBadZord Sep 25 '22

If you don't do standup comedy, you should. your mind is awseome.

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u/ChuloCharm Sep 24 '22

Exactly. Grinding for XP.

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u/invaderjif Sep 24 '22

Gotta read all the lore. Probably should talk to more npcs..

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u/Deliriousmuuuuu Sep 24 '22

Oh yes, and knowing every plant name also is a goal of some people.

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u/KlutzyAd9112 Sep 24 '22

Trying to get that 100%

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u/MamaLeet Sep 24 '22

I have learned much from random conversations

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u/Tac0Tuesday Sep 24 '22

We absolutely have more in common with most people than we realize.

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u/Faber_College Sep 24 '22

I like talking to strangers for this reason. I’ve found that pot holes are one thing universally hated.

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u/BookLuvr7 Sep 25 '22

Fun fact: back in the days of dirt roads, potters would occasionally dig a piece of clay out of roads to make pots. That's where the name came from.

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u/ClockwerkHart Sep 24 '22

This. Everyone is a new perspective, and new things to learn. And learning is fun.

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u/nicofdarcyshire Sep 24 '22

This. I worked in quiet-ish pubs for years. I had regulars and a fair amount of randomers. I used to love having crazy little chats. I picked up so much. I now have a brain full of odd little titbits.

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u/Mr_AM805 Sep 24 '22

This or just having a simple short conversation for me makes my day better.

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u/Tony0x01 Sep 25 '22

Same. I also find that I can more freely converse since I don't have to worrythink about seeing them again.

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u/No_Difference_3700 Sep 24 '22

Strangers don't use your mistakes or embarrassing moments against you, aka 'Gaslight' you. Amazing how 'mental illness' is caused by family. And you can be more open without being demonized. When you're majorly depressed, family is probably the last place to seek support. Just my arrogant opinion.

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u/AlecsThorne Sep 25 '22

Talking to a stranger will get you an objective opinion. Sometimes that's not as good, because if they don't know you and your motivation, they can't judge your actions properly, but in many cases, I'd rather hear the hard unfiltered truth ("well, that was stupid") than a sweet lie that might make be hopelessly hope for something ("oh, I'm sure it wasn't that bad. You're overthinking it, you'll make it for sure").

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u/asdaaaaaaaa Sep 25 '22

When you're majorly depressed, family is probably the last place to seek support.

It really is. If a stranger ignores you, whatever they were having a bad day. If a stranger listens to you, it means a LOT more than if family does.

Hurts more when family doesn't support, and means more when a stranger does support. Also strangers are generally more honest than people who are close to you (unless you're lucky enough to have an honest friend).

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u/Automatic_Hotel_3544 Sep 24 '22

I've made a lot of friends this way. Also, the ability to talk to anyone, anywhere is a super power. You learn so much, it upsets me that people don't see the value of it.

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u/Happyin2019 Sep 25 '22

Love this reply. I have a superpower!

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u/toothsecretary Sep 24 '22

I’m usually a bit shy to initiate conversation, but when I’m walking in public and other people are the ones to start it with me the extroverted portion of my introvert personality is secretly thrilled

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u/everything_in_sync Sep 25 '22

It gives me energy I didn't know I needed, then something in me awakes and I'm smiling and talking to everyone I see.

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u/BoilingFrog71 Sep 24 '22

As an introvert, I think it is good practice 'Conversation'.

  • if I make a mistake and embarrass myself I don't have to ever see that person again.
  • I might learn something!
  • I might make a new friend! (even for a few minutes)

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u/WiseAvocado Sep 25 '22

Yes! That's exactly what I did to "grow" out of my shyness as a teenager, and I have no regrets. I can now hold a conversation with virtually anyone.

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u/HiddenCity Sep 25 '22

You also just learn how to react to spontaneous conversation. Conversation is kind of a dance, and you have to learn it.

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u/21SweetLemon12 Sep 25 '22

The tricky part is to maintain contact with people afterwards, I'm terrible at that

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u/echOSC Sep 25 '22

Bravo.

People/communication skills are SKILLS. What better way to practice than with some of the lowest stakes situations you'll ever have in your life.

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u/Eekk2k2 Sep 24 '22

I like the feeling of being able to say whatever i want. Without any consequences to my normal day life.

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u/jkr131 Sep 24 '22

Being a bartender, I often found myself having amazing conversations over the most disparate topics with guest at bar, usually the ones who don't get too smashed, form personal experience to recommendations of places/drinks to history, videogames etc.

I like it because I don't have to be careful with what I say, it's just me serving you drinks, and sharing our opinions, without a right or wrong. I don't have to please anybody and there are no limitations to what we can say, given that we keep the terms civil and respectful.

It's also something I mostly do at work, I rarely engage conversations with strangers "if I don't have to", must still, I find amusing how much people share after one glass of wine and a friendly smile, and is possibly my favourite part of the job

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u/SeveralBusinessIdeas Sep 24 '22

Genuine curiosity.

It's a softskill superpower.

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u/cornylifedetermined Sep 25 '22

I am curious about everyone. I want to know everything about them. Only so much time in a day but I will talk to anyone in public.

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u/kingdomheartsislight Sep 25 '22

That’s my problem/motivator. I think people are so interesting. Tell me that story you like telling but everyone else is tired of hearing!

Additionally, this is why small talk is important. It’s basically a way of opening the door to the bigger stuff, like gauging whether someone is interested in talking further.

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u/Sell200AprilAt142 Sep 24 '22

You're asking this to an anonymous international online forum?

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u/Herodotus_9 Sep 24 '22

So exactly the people they are looking for?

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u/Pikdr Sep 24 '22

The irony is that OP is trying to converse with random people

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u/Wolfsangel-Dragon Sep 24 '22

Everyone has something valuable to share. Sometimes it's just worth it.

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u/rontc Sep 24 '22

It is, really. I've learned a lot just by talking to people that I'll never see again. Once, in Missouri a farmer told me to leave non-venomious snakes alone. Because snakes are terrortial, if you kill off the harmless snakes the venomous would move in. Sounded reasonable to me. I let a garter snake and her offspring live under my steps for years.

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u/Wolfsangel-Dragon Sep 24 '22

That is actually good advice. We have a few rat snakes in our backyard. They do not interfere with us, nor do we them. They keep the local variety of krate away. Sometimes tourists who go trekking get bitten because they are not aware of the krate cluster.

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u/rontc Sep 24 '22

I actually, enjoyed sitting on my porch and watching the baby garter snakes in the spring, stretching to feel the warmth of the spring sun.if I moved, they'd zip back into the nest.

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u/Wolfsangel-Dragon Sep 24 '22

I find it creepy when all the babies stick their heads out together and wiggle around in unison while they look at you.. It's like they're shyly judging you from a distance probably passing some nasty snake-as comments about us.

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u/rontc Sep 24 '22

No that's not it. They were just feeling the warmth of the sun. The first time I saw their mom, I was rebuilding my wifes birdfeeder. I was on one knee, using a drill bit,reached down to get a bolt. And she was wiggling between me and the house. She could have bit me easily. She didn't.

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u/MrsTurtlebones Sep 24 '22

Same! I've had my house for 19 years and enjoy that garter snakes live in my yard; we are cordial but have no contact. When my daughter was 1, she came in from the front porch saying, "sssssss, ssssss" and pointing. I went out to see a garter snake stretched out across the bottom step, and I loved that even though she didn't know the word for snake, she still told me one was out there in the best way she could.

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u/IfTheLegsFit Sep 24 '22

That's how I feel. Everyone has a story.

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u/Wolfsangel-Dragon Sep 24 '22

Don't we all. The human nature is fascinating to me. How we're all so same, yet so different in ever imaginable way.

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u/Nolanova Sep 24 '22

Every time I go through a place with a large group of people, especially public transportation, I always have a mini existential crisis because I think about how everyone around me has their own story that I will never know, and most likely I will never meet any of them ever again

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u/the_original_Retro Sep 24 '22

Two big reasons.

First, I feel it enriches my life when I interact with fellow humans.

Second, there's a super good chance that I can learn something from them, and I like learning stuff.

There's other reasons too, like in some cases other people enjoy a random chat as well, and I appear to be fairly decent at small talk that's inoffensive and doesn't drive people's anxieties. Also, it kills time.

So, yeah. If I sense it starts making people uncomfortable, I stop. But my own experience has shown me that harmless trading of a few words rewards me more than just standing there silently.

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u/carpet111 Sep 24 '22

I work at a store. If the customers didn't occasionally carry on some small talk with me, I think I'd hate my job a lot more than I do.

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u/ItsMeTK Sep 24 '22

That’s the thing I hate most about service jobs!

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u/liv_free_or_die Sep 24 '22

A lot of my customers are genuinely awesome people.

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u/Morningssucks Sep 24 '22

I could write a book with all the great stories I heard from strangers I met at restaurants, in stores, in planes,…

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u/[deleted] Sep 24 '22

Depends on who.

Random stranger but like the crazy ones

Its like strangers and freaks missions on gta v. Its just funny

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u/Narwhal_in_a_Tree Sep 24 '22

I wouldn't describe myself as a very talkative person and I rarely initiate conversations, but I still think there is something special about talking to strangers, when I sometimes actually do it. Just suddenly feeling connected to a person you have never met and will probably never meet again is somehow really fascinating. Not only to feel connected to that person, but to everybody. I sometimes tend to forget that, in a way, we are all "in the same boat". I also find it kind of heartwarming to see how in certain situations, especially in emergencies, people that have never met each other instinctively work together to overcome an issue, or to help random strangers.

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u/ayannanevaeh Sep 24 '22

Some people are nice, some people are rude. I learn from both experiences.

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u/Flimsy-Attention-722 Sep 24 '22

I had to read these answers cause my husband is like this and I'm more like but why???

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u/rl_palmtoptiger Sep 25 '22

It’s kinda hard to answer but I guess for me it’s because you never know what's going on in someone's life, and some thing as simple as a conversation can completely change a person’s day. Also you can learn about some absolutely crazy shit as well.

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u/[deleted] Sep 25 '22

Is hubby generally happier than you are?

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u/bison--3 Sep 24 '22 Gold

It's called "normal social interaction" and a lotta people on here should try it sometime lol

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u/xtrakrispie Sep 24 '22

I wonder if people with this attitude are the same crowd that complains about how hard it is to make friends as an adult. Like you got to actually get out there. Nobody is going to do it for you.

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u/lankymjc Sep 24 '22

I cheated and joined a board game club. Don't need to engage in conversation; can just play the game!

Met my wife there, so my trap worked.

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u/ZeroTicktacktoe Sep 24 '22

I thought the same.

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u/RedHotRhapsody Sep 24 '22

fr, the tone of this post sounds super accusatory for a normal ass thing that people do

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u/bison--3 Sep 24 '22

Not to mention polite and makes for a more comfortable atmosphere. Taking a shuttle to the airport? Ask how it's been and where ya goin. Doesn't take much to be nice lol.

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u/Andrewpruka Sep 24 '22

Why contribute to a comfortable atmosphere when you can quietly scowl in the corner like a creep???

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u/daxforsnax Sep 24 '22

"Normal ass thing to do" can be very different depending on what part of the world you're in.

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u/daguy9 Sep 24 '22

Classic! Suck it Reddit!

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u/[deleted] Sep 24 '22

Meet cool people sometimes

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u/HarrisonRyeGraham Sep 24 '22

Especially at the airport! I’ll talk to ANYONE at the airport lol. So many cool people from everywhere

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u/[deleted] Sep 24 '22

It’s fun. It’s a glimpse into another reality, which we can fully ever experience. You don’t ever know what insights anyone may have. :)

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u/Garbanzo12 Sep 24 '22

It’s part of being a social animal and living in a society. Conversation can range from casual to in depth. Never know when you’re gonna meet a fellow “xyz” enthusiast.

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u/HotSauceHigh Sep 25 '22

Exactly. This is what humans are supposed to do, and did do before the internet.

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u/gymfreak6969 Sep 24 '22

I'm lonely and depressed

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u/[deleted] Sep 24 '22

I hope you feel better <3

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u/El_reyDe1984 Sep 24 '22

Some people just like to have conversations with strangers

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u/[deleted] Sep 24 '22

to be fair, everyone is a stranger until you get to know them

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u/csdeadboy1980 Sep 24 '22

I don't get out much.

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u/nOneWphuks2give Sep 24 '22

Bc the chances of you seeing them again and having to face everything you just unloaded is close to 0%, for those deep convos. The random ones, helps pass the time. Smiles can also be contagious if you allow them to be.

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u/BardockLegend Sep 24 '22

You can learn new things that you didn’t know before, not to mention usually random people will be less biased then people you know personally.

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u/Opposite-Algae8912 Sep 24 '22

Cause we are communal being and have shared experiences. If I am waiting on a long line with someone, we may just strike up a conversation about the line, or how they need to get another cashier, or about how excited we are to get tickets to this concert. I’ve met some really cool people through random conversations. Ended up being friends with a few.

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u/Dunemer Sep 24 '22

How else would you meet people

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u/midget_tossing Sep 24 '22

Why not? Wanna talk about it?

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u/Oak1304 Sep 24 '22 Helpful

You don't have to worry about consequences

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u/st0pmakings3ns3 Sep 24 '22

You obviously haven't told a stranger they look like Gary Busey.

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u/PSTGtheFirst Sep 24 '22

I'll try that tomorrow.

"Excuse me, madam..."

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u/helterskeltermelter Sep 24 '22

People who tell random people they look like dishevelled old crazy dudes, why do you do it?

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u/TopSpot123 Sep 25 '22

...and why is it always me when I'm in a hurry?

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u/Next_Barnacle_8340 Sep 25 '22 edited Sep 25 '22

Sometimes that's how you meet the nicest people, hear the coolest stories, and gain a different perspective. Most people don't realize the echo chamber they assimilated themselves into until that's the only type of people they can hold a conversation with. Why would I do something that would limit my life's experience?

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u/throwaway05957374 Sep 24 '22

because everyone is a son, daughter, cousin etc and has their own rich life story. i met an opera singer in line to take the elevator down from the Eiffel tower and i still talk to her today. you meet so many new ppl and can learn something from all of them

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u/DodGamnBunofaSitch Sep 24 '22

I'm assessing whether or not people in physical proximity are a threat.

it's a trauma response.

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u/noninflammatoryidiot Sep 25 '22

Gotta do an ocular pat down first

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u/ripConsolePharah Sep 24 '22

It's like prospecting, but instead of gold, its that little thing that makes them squirm

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u/Mkvu1999 Sep 24 '22

How do I go about finding these people?

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u/jemull Sep 24 '22

Go outside where other people are. Say hello to someone. If they're receptive, strike up a conversation. If they're not, try again with someone else.

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u/--eRa--- Sep 24 '22

..Because everyone has a story

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u/e58014dcfbcaa02c73df Sep 24 '22

I’m bored and they’re a nice distraction.

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u/vibrant_crab Sep 24 '22

I experienced that today at Publix by making a comment to the lady in line ahead of me about how busy it was. Then she started talking and I couldn’t hear a word she was saying and I just nodded like an idiot for a few minutes lmao.

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u/SkippyTeddy83 Sep 24 '22

That would totally be me.

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u/Jccckkk Sep 24 '22

You’ll never know until you ask!

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u/Krancton21 Sep 24 '22

I was wondering why women did this to me in clubs, according to my friends it's cause they're into me, and I being oblivious don't notice. Though as dumb as I am, I somehow doubt this is the case for every stranger interaction I have.

Beyond that I don't know, catches me off guard and I just try to get through the interaction without being too awkward. Normally it takes me a moment or two to catch up on what they are talking about and what I should say in response.

Though I did see a bench earlier today where it said people who want to be talked to should sit on such. More things like that would be useful in broader society.

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u/Ilookgoodyoudont Sep 24 '22

You just asked to explain Reddit

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u/Massive-Ad7628 Sep 24 '22

it's refreshing,
always make me feel as if "it's not that bad after all"

and there's no prior knowledge of each other, we're just two strangers striking up a conversation.

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u/Crayonalyst Sep 24 '22

Everybody is interesting in their own way.

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u/MJohnVan Sep 24 '22

Learning, you can learn so much from a stranger.

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u/heyholmes Sep 24 '22

Because people are actually pretty interesting, and you don't broaden your horizons very much by remaining insular.

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u/RylerionIxe Sep 25 '22

People fascinate me. No one's experiences are the same and you'd be surprised what you can learn by just listening.

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u/Extreme_Today_984 Sep 24 '22

I work in sales. Making conversations with strangers is how I make my money

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u/like5or6 Sep 24 '22

There’s a lot to learn from people. A lot of stories to hear, a lot of unique and cool connections to be made. It also helps remind you that people are beautiful creatures and that not everyone in the world is a cunt.

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u/Yikesthismylife Sep 24 '22

Sometimes random ppl giving me a conversation at a store or waiting at a bus stop helps me get through the day if it happens to be a tough one (it gets me out of my head). I try to do the same for others and hope it helps

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u/sappbb Sep 24 '22

I'm just lonely lol

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u/lonelysof Sep 24 '22

1) they don’t have a background of me so i can just be myself authentically without trying to fill expectations 2) you never know how interesting a person is until you talk to them 3) i just love to have verbal intercourses it’s really refreshing

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u/paplc Sep 24 '22

Never used to till I started my new job. Casual conversations can be nice, because there isn't much expectation on either end. "How has your day been?" "Do you know where this place is?" Simple stuff. As an introvert they still exhaust me, but in a pleasant kind of way. Like a long day at work and you're tired, but happy.

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u/VividEffort1552 Sep 24 '22

A lot of younger people struggle with this these days, also eye contact and generally how to deal with the world outside of the internet

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u/Vupant Sep 24 '22 edited Sep 24 '22

The long and short of it is that it's kinda exciting making a new first impression on someone, and they on you.

It rarely leads to a fruitful conversation or friendship, and there are many times where a really sour experience causes me to take a break from it for like two to twelve months, but I always come back to it.

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u/217706 Sep 24 '22

Because I have a genuine interest in different cultures

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u/Funnythinf3u3u3u3 Sep 25 '22 edited Sep 25 '22

Im lonely. I want to chat. Nothing weird. Just...whats going on? Take me out of my reality for two secs

Edit: I want to know. I had a super shotty childhood. This month is suicide awareness month. Ice stryggled for months and hearing others share the same means alot.

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u/Eastern-Seri-9310 Sep 25 '22

Probably don't talk to people trying to read or wearing headphones.

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u/VanEagles17 Sep 24 '22

And to expand on that question, people who like having conversations with random people, why me?

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u/El_Revan_Official Sep 24 '22

I am not supposed to say this, and I now have 15 minutes before they come after me. But the reason we all go talk to you is because you are in a simulation. You are watched by billions of people world wide, and since birth, you have been raised in a control simulation in which we are all apart of your life. We watch you, making sure you never escape the simulation, we follow the script in which ensures that your life goes as planned. They are here. I hear them now, there is no time. Run.

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u/ethicalviolence Sep 24 '22

I used to get a lot of these people and just got told i looked nice. So now i won't leave the house without my headphones even when I'm not listening to music.

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u/miasabine Sep 24 '22

I would also like an answer to this question please.

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u/Elleseebee928 Sep 24 '22

Why not? Why has being friendly become frowned upon?

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u/RichardXV Sep 24 '22

Why not? Humans are social animals.

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u/sullensquirrel Sep 24 '22

Exactly. We need it.

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u/Deliriousmuuuuu Sep 24 '22

Brave and beautiful animals, as the music says.