r/WhitePeopleTwitter Sep 24 '22 Helpful 1

Stands to reason.

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u/antoniamabee Sep 24 '22

Exactly! My brother in law got caught cheating on his wife multiple times, they are finally getting divorced and now he jumped into a new relationship right away and is proposing already. He isn’t even divorced yet. Like dude, just fuck around. That’s what you like to do.

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u/INFJ_witchergirl Sep 24 '22

Someone has to do his laundry and cook for him

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u/stix-and-stones Sep 25 '22

This is the answer. My ex cheated on me for years and told women he was "living the bachelor life". When I finally left him, he started crying that he didn't want me to leave. I told him that bachelors cook their own meals, do their own laundry, and clean their own homes, and that now he could finally live the bachelor life he's been talking about

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u/INFJ_witchergirl Sep 25 '22

Well done. Must have felt empowering. Happy cake day🎂😊

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u/Wubbalubbadubbitydo Sep 24 '22

This is how my dad is. He’s proposed to two different women since him and my stepMom separated in ~2018.

My stepmom had such low standards and put up with so much shit from him and he still cheated on her repeatedly. All he has to do was not a total piece of shit and he could have continued his easy life.

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u/SweetAlyssumm Sep 25 '22

This answers OP's question - because being married AND cheating is a sweet gig for those so inclined. Happens all the time. A lot of men/women are good looking, charming, manipulative, know how to press spouse's buttons, in all combinations and permutations thereof. Spouse stays. Have cake, eat cake too.

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u/Masonjaruniversity Sep 25 '22

It has zero to do with fucking around and everything to do with getting away with something. The sneaking around and having secrets is what gets people off. Not the sex. I had a friend who was into living that life. He would be with multiple girls and not tell any of them. Always drama. Were not friends anymore.

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u/Makuta_Servaela Sep 25 '22

This, and a fear of being alone. They want to have all the fun but also have someone committed to them to clean up after them when they come home.

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u/Horror-Activity-2694 Sep 25 '22

There has to be some kind of mental... something, causing this. Any psychologists in the thread want to weigh in?

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u/LillianIsaDo Sep 25 '22

Some people feel like not having a partner makes them a loser, even of they have no intention of working to make the relationship successful. So they go from person to person until someone is insecure enough to just stay with them or they end up alone anyway

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u/[deleted] Sep 24 '22

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u/antoniamabee Sep 24 '22

It’s not my sister…he’s my husband’s brother

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u/yoloswagginstheturd Sep 25 '22

women don't exist online bro

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u/Starkiller006 Sep 24 '22

Bruh I can't figure out:

A) how cheaters get relationships repeatedly

B) how mofos are out here juggling women when I can't even find a coffee date anymore

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u/crystal_currants Sep 24 '22

They want their cake and to eat it too. Not only do they enjoy cheating for the sake of cheating, they can expect their poor so to provide emotional support and stability. It’s gross

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u/weleninor Sep 24 '22

A) how cheaters get relationships repeatedly

Be attractive, it's likely they're also good at lying/manipulating, sometimes narcissistic etc. A reasonably attractive woman can be in a relationship with a decent schmuck at literally any time should they choose. Not implying women cheat more to be clear.

B) how mofos are out here juggling women when I can't even find a coffee date anymore

Again being attractive, assertive and non-judgemental goes a long way. Some dudes get all 3 seemingly naturally but you can learn it, it'll eat up a lot of your time though. Chasing women that is. But those 3 things will absolutely benefit you in other areas of your life and are worth it regardless.

I would never personally cheat but I've been with a few women that were, tbh it was fun as shitty as that sounds and I even sought it out. I realize that's a stupid, dangerous game. Don't recommend it tbh

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u/Prim56 Sep 25 '22

Manipulation sounds like key. If you can make promises others are not able to keep ofcourse you're the better choice (if they don't knoe you're lying)

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u/tothesource Sep 25 '22

It's important to realize that you being single is almost assuredly more healthy than these people cheating.

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u/compsciasaur Sep 25 '22

I'll just say it: I think some people are attracted to cheaters.

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u/FiveJobs Sep 25 '22

Lower your body fat and don’t act ashamed of your masculinity.

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u/AlphaOhmega Sep 24 '22

Same reason why some people steal even though they have the means to buy what they want.

The thrill is the point.

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u/ilovecatsandcafe Sep 24 '22

After seeing shakira get cheated im convinced everybody is going to cheat, just fool around and don’t get married lol

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u/YawningPestle Sep 25 '22

And Halle Berry.

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u/DonDove Sep 25 '22

Shakira of all people didn't deserve it

Then again no one does

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u/LiliNotACult Sep 24 '22

That's what open relationships are for. All of the emotions and gritty details of a regular relationship without the physical commitment.

Not my cup of tea but it works for some people.

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u/Substantial-Emu-9900 Sep 24 '22

That's what open relationships are for. All of the emotions and gritty details of a regular relationship

Compounded, even.

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u/elonmusksdeadeyes Sep 24 '22

I've actually been cheated on in an open relationship, so it's not even guaranteed in one of those.

I think some people just get off on lying to people, regardless of how easy it would be to just be honest.

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u/LoveableMilkshake Sep 24 '22

Are you willing to elaborate here? Absolutely zero judgment, I am just genuinely curious. My understanding had been that all parties were free to engage in relationships with other people outside the relationship but it’s not something I have personal experience with. What does cheating look like in open relationships?

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u/VanguardN7 Sep 24 '22

Open just means non exclusive. You still may, and likely do have boundaries that you wish to not be crossed. Some open relationships are open such that anything at all goes, but it shouldn't be expected. Some don't like certain sexual activities happening, some dont like certain emotional or romantic ties forming, some don't like the jealousy that they may feel if their partner is establishing more commitment to another person and not them, etc.

The usual advice is don't move into an open relationship from an existing one (you have to start with it; but ofc there are always exceptions) and frequently communicate your boundaries and objectives of the relationship, don't assume anything, because the 'norm' of a closed relationship is (presumably) relatively much more simple (aka don't do anything with anyone else) but this isn't a closed relationship.

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u/elonmusksdeadeyes Sep 24 '22

No problem. Of course everyone's relationships and boundaries are different, but in the open relationships I've been in there are a couple of rules I expect people to follow/respect:

(1) Always use protection, and get STD tested regularly.

(2) I always want to know what my partners are doing and with who. This also goes along with keeping eachother safe from STDs, since everyone will be aware of when they need to be extra careful or when they should get tested, but it also just shows basic respect and honesty that I expect from any relationship.

One of my exes who I was in an open relationship with had sex with multiple people without my knowledge, and would even lie about it when I flat-out asked him when I suspected things were happening behind my back. I think for him he just enjoyed lying to me, because he got a rush out of "getting away with it". I think he almost felt like he was proving how smart he was by tricking me. Not really sure, but that was my guess.

When I finally found out everything that he was doing without my knowledge, it just confirmed for me how he had zero respect or care for me as a person. He was willingly putting my sexual health at risk, because he wasn't allowing me to be aware of and consent to exposing myself to the people he was exposing himself to. He was willfully breaking the rules of our relationship, that he had agreed to. I consider that being cheated on.

(And yes, I immediately got a STD test after I found everything out. I was good-to-go... Thankfully.)

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u/DisposableTires Sep 25 '22

Not who you're replying to, but I attempted a relationship once with the relatively simple ground rules of "I got low sex drive so you're allowed to have other girlfriends. But they gotta be clean, healthy girls with clean STD panels. Not prostitutes or tinder hookups."

Took about two months before he was regaling me about this interesting story that involved him having sex with a prostitute. I wasn't even mad, I just raised my eyebrows and asked him to repeat the rules of the relationship I had precisely specified and even put into writing (text message) not that long ago. He backtracked that she wasn't a prostitute, just a chick he met off tinder who agreed to have sex with him for money. I calmly asked if he was trying to make me angry. He backtracked again and said that they didn't have sex and also he didn't give her any money, she stole it. There were several more backtrackings, and it finally ended with him claiming that none of the events he'd told me about had actually happened and he just made the whole thing up for attention.

The sad bit is that this was actually somewhat plausible, he did have a known history of heavily exaggerating events in his favor.

Anyway, I decided that it wasn't about the sex for him, it was about the boundary violation, and whether the event HAD happened or not, the fact that he WANTED to violate the boundary was adequate reason not to continue the relationship.

Interestingly, he told all our mutuals that he'd broken it off with me because I was "sexually frigid". A few years ago (8 years and 2 of his marriages) he got two or three of those same people to ask me if I'd get back together with him. It was rather amusing.

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u/shrimpslippers Sep 25 '22

I'm polyam. My partner and I opened the relationship after 8 years together. It was a great decision. Highly recommend for anyone interested, but definitely do some research on how to have a healthy open relationship.

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u/Sluty-Pizzabot Sep 24 '22

Everyone wants stability and a little excitement from time to time. It’s just in our nature. Not saying it’s right but just saying it’s why some people do it.

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u/rustajb Sep 24 '22

I've had explicit permission to cheat for the last 25 years of marriage. She has said it often, just don't bring her home. French rules: nobody we both know, not in the house, nobody she would likely meet.

Who has the damn time?! I work from home, help raising a kid, keep the house running. Some of my male friends think I'm crazy for not using this permission, I just don't feel the need to. I've even turned down an invitation at a new year's eve party because my wife had to work late and I would have felt bad having fun while she was stuck in a store working late, missing fun.

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u/DiddledByDad Sep 24 '22

All the power to you for making it work but man that shit just ain’t for me. If my partner is giving me permission to do that, relationship is already over.

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u/rustajb Sep 24 '22 Starstruck

My wife has a chronic illness. She wants me to be happy. I am happy. I invested a lot in our relationship, I don't want to spend energy on a second.

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u/DiddledByDad Sep 24 '22

I also choose this guys chronically ill wife

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u/teamfupa Sep 25 '22

I get this reference

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u/Trosque97 Sep 24 '22

Man kudos to you for not even using that, you're a better man than I. But also just massive respect in general for the weight you carry, and I hope you are appreciated

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u/rustajb Sep 24 '22

It feels nice to have that in my back pocket. That she trusts me. That she cares about me enough to make the offer. Maybe if I were younger, but I'm old enough that I just want to be home where all my stuff is.

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u/Courageous_Chameleon Sep 24 '22

My partner and I discussed it. I'm the chronically ill one. Her reaction was "Ew, germs and other people's potential drama? No, thanks." Haha. We also just want to be home where all our stuff is.

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u/rustajb Sep 24 '22

You get it!

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u/pmjm Sep 24 '22

If my partner, on multiple occasions, gave me permission to cheat, I would assume they were fishing for me to reciprocate that permission back to them.

No judgement whatsoever, and maybe you've already considered this, maybe even granted it, but it's just worth mentioning.

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u/rustajb Sep 25 '22

Most cases you would be right. But context is king. She has only ever brought it up when my libido was way above hers. She says she knows people have needs and I should not be denied mine. Her grandfather had a mistress and the family knew but kept it quiet. Her parents were serial cheaters. After working with people in the kink community she saw it as healthy if done with respect. We know people in open relationships, even married couples. Neither of us really wants to cheat, but if it happened and were caught, we wouldn't lose our minds and ruin what we have. We've been together 25 years and know each other well. Neither of us would let a fling get in the way.

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u/pmjm Sep 25 '22

That's lovely and sounds like a very healthy relationship. Kudos.

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u/Individual_West3997 Sep 24 '22

Ah, the French rules is where I fucked up in my relationship that recently ended. Being the jackass I am, I brought someone home and caused a big fucking thing and now I know why that was a rule in the first place.

Win some lose some. But I wish I didn't lose my partner, they were the best. Bitter end to one of the better things in my life.

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u/rustajb Sep 24 '22

I'm sorry to hear that. You live and learn. I've never cheated. My first marriage ended because she cheated on me and was unapologetic because he was a life long friend of hers she used to date. Even the marriage counselor told her she was wrong and that I should leave.

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u/LillianIsaDo Sep 25 '22

That sucks man. Hope you're in a good relationship now.

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u/rustajb Sep 25 '22

25 years on my current marriage. She's everything I ever wanted, I'm sure she feels the same.

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u/LillianIsaDo Sep 25 '22

Glad to hear it🥰

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u/HArgHorp Sep 24 '22

Just curious, but does she do the same thing? Like does she have the permission to do that as well? Tbh the way you described how busy you are; it sounds more like a hassle too lol

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u/rustajb Sep 24 '22

She's a homebody with chronic pain. She has permission, she likes girls more than men. She likes men, just girls more. She also has a low libido due to medications. So if she did it would likely be with another woman. I wouldn't mind but would want her to play by the same rules. We both used to be photographers in the kink community and have a very wide array of friends with all kinds of beliefs. We stayed monogamous despite poly friends. So we're open to most things. But she stays home mostly and really doesn't have the opportunity, but then neither do I.

All in all, we're both in the same boat. Neither of us has the time or energy lol.

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u/i-contain-multitudes Sep 25 '22

r/menandgirls

Edit: seems like I'm thinking of r/MenAndFemales and r/menandgirls doesn't exist.

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u/BluejayFit Sep 24 '22

Then they’d have to do your own laundry if they weren’t keeping someone trapped at home to do it for them

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u/throwawaythrowyellow Sep 25 '22

Totally this (in my opinion) They get meals cooked, house cleaned, a lot of times a lot of their “mental planning” taken care of. I’m sure they do their fair share. But they basically get the stability of a family and the fun of a single man.

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u/DonDove Sep 25 '22

Exactly. They never grow up.

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u/Spayse_Case Sep 24 '22

Good point. They wouldn't have a domestic servant if they were single.

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u/Strict-Succotash-405 Sep 24 '22 edited Sep 24 '22

People who cheat either know they have a problem or they don’t know they have a problem

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u/Substantial-Emu-9900 Sep 24 '22

Very comprehensive take.

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u/Strict-Succotash-405 Sep 24 '22

Maybe it could be more complicated

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u/LetMeSleepNoEleven Sep 24 '22

If you cheat - get sexually involved with someone other than the person you’ve made a monogamous commitment to - you don’t want the monogamous commitment.

So end that, then have sex with who you want to have sex with, and you aren’t cheating.

Why lie and pretend you’re in a monogamous commitment when you aren’t?

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u/Yomiel94 Sep 24 '22

To have the benefits of someone else's commitment and the freedom to sleep with whomever.

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u/LetMeSleepNoEleven Sep 25 '22

That’s just mean.

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u/Yomiel94 Sep 25 '22

I'd used a stronger word than mean, but yeah.

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u/DonDove Sep 25 '22

I'll say it for you: it's disgusting

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u/demunicorntiddies Sep 24 '22

It’s because they want to back up and stability of a relationship. They want to do who they want but always have someone to come home to and to take care of them.

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u/killyourmusic Sep 24 '22

They want to have their cake and eat it, too. The cake, I mean.

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u/Wide-Amoeba3326 Sep 25 '22

Right? Thought that was super obvious

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u/Sweatieboobrash Sep 24 '22

It’s because the rent is too high.

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u/SpaceAp3 Sep 24 '22

Cowards are afraid to be alone

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u/Jealous-Network-8852 Sep 24 '22

I’ve said this for years. If you feel the need to cheat, you have no business being in a relationship.

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u/iJezza Sep 24 '22

Brave.

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u/brian11e3 Sep 24 '22

Keeping one woman happy is enough work for me. Why would I want to double the work load?

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u/RefrigeratorSmart881 Sep 24 '22

Because most the wife or husband as well maybe for the kids maybe because they pay or help pay bills. Or any number of reasons

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u/VGSchadenfreude Sep 24 '22

It’s a power thing. They want a wife/girlfriend to keep house, provide them offspring, handle their every basic survival need…but then they also want a side piece to have “fun” with.

Oftentimes, they’ll also use that side piece as insurance in case their wife/girlfriend gets fed up with their shit and leaves them. Cheating means they already have a replacement ready to go.

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u/IndividualAbrocoma35 Sep 24 '22

Or talk to your partner and maybe discover that you are now swingers?

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u/Mixermarkb Sep 24 '22

This. For some folks casual sex can be separated from love. Granted those folks usually have some trauma in the past that has caused that separation, but truly honest and open communication in a relationship is way more important than “traditional” ideas about sexual faithfulness

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u/ToyTech316 Sep 24 '22

There's excitement in cheating.

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u/DiddledByDad Sep 24 '22

There’s excitement in snorting cocaine and robbing a bank as well, doesn’t mean I’m going to do it just because I need some adrenaline in my life

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u/Substantial-Emu-9900 Sep 24 '22

Some people do those things for the same reason. Risk assessment isn't everyone's forte.

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u/iJezza Sep 24 '22

explanation =/= justification

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u/visionarygvp Sep 24 '22

Adrenaline at the expense of someone else’s feelings at that!

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u/Doctor_Mudshark Sep 24 '22

yep, when something is taboo, it becomes much more titillating.

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u/Mietinusein Sep 24 '22

That's like saying there is excitement punching your partner in the face.

Being cheated on leaves a very deep trauma often that takes years to heal. That's nothing to be excited about.

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u/Suzuiscool Sep 24 '22

Being cheated on destroyed me, I doubt I'll ever fully recover

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u/Mietinusein Sep 25 '22

Hey, have you listened this book called "Leave a Cheater, gain a life"? you can get it from audible (it's good to listen to it) or probably from other places. It really helped me to get over the break up and being cheated on. I really recommend you to get it like right now and just listen to it. It's none of those bullshit reasons that justify with the cheater why they cheat, but instead kicks all their bullshit out of the window and says everything as it is.

I wish I would have listened to it when everything happened to me but... after listening to it (again now hah) it just opened my eyes to everything.

I wish you the best of luck with healing and if you ever want to talk, can always chat with me.

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u/AthenasApostle Sep 25 '22

I'm sorry to hear that.

I want to say that I don't mean to minimize your feelings at all. You are entirely valid in your pain. You are allowed to grieve a lost relationship for as long as you feel is right, no matter how long that is. There is no time limit on break up pain, even if you're sad years from now.

But someday, you will realize "I didn't think about them at all today." And then you'll go a few more days before thinking about them. Then a couple weeks. Someday you'll be living your life without thinking about them at all.

So take your time. Feel your feelings. Be sad, because it's okay to be sad.

But it's gonna get better. I promise. <3

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u/vivacolombia23 Sep 24 '22

It’s complicated

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u/ChipSamurai Sep 24 '22

The definition of “have ones cake and eat it too.”

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u/Pipoluloninja Sep 24 '22

Why fck other girls when you can fck your own girl like bro?!

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u/boosnie Sep 24 '22

Because life.

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u/ARTIFICIAL_SAPIENCE Sep 24 '22

Because being single runs the risk of being alone. Cheating means you have a fallback plan.

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u/kyleguck Sep 24 '22

Single? In this economy?!

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u/StraightConfidence Sep 25 '22

Sage advice, stay single...and do your future partners a solid by getting a vasectomy now.

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u/Depresso_Shot Sep 25 '22

Or polyamory exists

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u/Superb-General2676 Sep 25 '22

Because destroying someones sense of worth is what gets them off.

It’s evil and sickening.

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u/JediMindTriq Sep 24 '22

Some people want to have their cake and fuck it too

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u/Obsidian_Purity Sep 24 '22

I honestly think if the punishments of cheating, or basically wanting out would be removed, a lot more guys would just leave.

It's oddly the answer to why a lot more guys aren't trying to be tied down.

A woman cheats, gets bored, wants a new life or new adventures... go with God/Space Buddha/The Cold Clarity of Imperial Truth.

A man cheats, gets bored, wants a new life or new adventures... not so fast, Johnny. The Government suggests you settle up with the bill before anything else.

But that's the marriage angle. Some guys are also douches.

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u/Hippyfunk77 Sep 24 '22

How and why are so many people getting married?

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u/Greenmind76 Sep 24 '22

People cheat because something else is missing in the relationship. That’s pretty much it. People love having someone but sometimes people change or just aren’t feeling their needs are met but rather than speak about it, they stray.

Being single is draining for most people…

ETA: not excusing cheating just saying why I think it happens.

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u/Jazzlike-Ad-3424 Sep 24 '22

Conversely, if you are in a relationship that has certain parameters, it's just not that hard not to cheat. It's really quite easy. if you're having issues, break the fuck up.

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u/Sweet_balls_kush Sep 24 '22

Thats why as soon as the women try to get serious I am gone.

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u/mad_titanz Sep 24 '22

Well, in the Lavine's case, he was cheating with an unmarried woman, but people still like to attack her for having a relationship with him. It seems like if you are female and did it with a married man, you're a slut, but when a guy (like Lavine) is doing it, he's a player and won't get called out.

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u/Binnacle_Balls_jr Sep 24 '22

Because i like having someone at home to nag me to an early grave, but i also like to get a blowjob once in a while.

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u/fitz_newru Sep 24 '22

lol goddamn on both accounts

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u/rwk2007 Sep 24 '22

Single? With 1/3 of your stuff? Paying 75% of your money to the person that abandoned you physically and doesn’t give a shit about you? While now living with your parents because you can’t even afford an apartment? Ya, that sounds like a good idea.

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u/DisfavoredFlavored Sep 24 '22

Well your first mistake was getting married....you were supposed to STAY single not become it...

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u/BaboonHorrorshow Sep 24 '22

You know most prenups don’t hold up in divorce court and if the prenup doesn’t say “she gets half” the judge can just bang the gavel and give her half anyway

Just know your gold diggers and don’t marry one

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u/smallways Sep 24 '22

Sorry for your pain. There's always a way to a brighter tomorrow.

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u/LiliNotACult Sep 24 '22

If nukes get involved that tomorrow will be spicy bright.

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u/Cranberry_Afraid Sep 24 '22

For women, it is the attention received when cheating that makes them do it..

For men, it is the EGO receiving praise for another cookie conquered..

Ijs..

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u/Survey_Server Sep 24 '22

Sounds like something you pulled out of your ass.

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u/steampunkMechElves Sep 24 '22 edited Sep 25 '22

I'm afraid my partner will kill themselves if I leave. It's happened twice.

Edit: I'm not in saying I cheat, but that's why I can't be single and do whatever I want.

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u/iJezza Sep 24 '22

she's killed herself twice so far huh

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u/steampunkMechElves Sep 24 '22

What's wrong with you? Why are you like this?

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u/iJezza Sep 24 '22

Partly because your point is idiotic. Partly because you appear to date exclusively partners who are in varying degrees of depression and mental instability and partly because the verbiage you selected was silly.

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u/steampunkMechElves Sep 24 '22

Find someone without mental instability who's willing to date me, then. Go on. I'll wait.

Also, fuck you for being a massive shithead when I'm talking about how I ended the lives of two people who just wanted to love me. What the fuck is wrong with you?

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u/icecoldfivefold Sep 24 '22

Because what else are you gonna do in your girls house with her car while she's at work? Like you can't break up with her or you're homeless and no car and no walking around money.

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u/DisfavoredFlavored Sep 24 '22

Well shit dude, I hope she kicks your sorry ass out.

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u/MykeEl_K Sep 24 '22

"Successful??" You just admitted you don't have a job, car, other place to live.... AND your broke???

I'm scared to ask what you would consider a failure

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u/icecoldfivefold Sep 24 '22

If you can get someone to give you their shit whenever you want it without working a day in your life that's succes cus it took so little effort someone with the same shit that worked for its a clown

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u/MykeEl_K Sep 24 '22

Ah... so people who work & help others are clowns. Leaches like you are successful. Or your not an actual leach, just a boring troll

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u/icecoldfivefold Sep 24 '22

Enjoy toiling for money to live worse off then I do I mean you'd have to live in a mansion to be living better then I am but a mansion would sound like a lie so even then I wouldn't believe it lol

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u/emotionalmooncake Sep 24 '22

What a sad little troll.

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u/icecoldfivefold Sep 24 '22

I know right easy to judge when you don't even have someone to cheat on

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u/smallways Sep 24 '22

If you'd be homeless, carless, and penniless without her because you are jobless, while she's working, you should be doing the dinner, dishes, laundry and lawn.

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u/icecoldfivefold Sep 24 '22

That's why I cheat idk how to do all that but these 21 year olds that shoot meth do it's all for her man why don't ppl get that

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u/LiliNotACult Sep 24 '22

Sounds like you're using her as a replacement for your mom except you can fuck her. I hope that she finds out, dumps you, and you are forced to develop as a person

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u/icecoldfivefold Sep 24 '22

That would be lame and u a lame ass muhfucker for wishing evil on ppl like that

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u/ultramrstruggle Sep 24 '22

You can just play COD like you always do lol

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u/icecoldfivefold Sep 24 '22

Naw I Rush every season the first 4 days to do drugs the rest of the time

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u/dickprompt Sep 24 '22

I feel like cheating is a round about way of pulling the band aid off for all the people afraid of confrontation even with their own partners. Similar but way more shitty than the fade away method.

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u/omi_palone Sep 24 '22

Narcissism and borderline personality disorder have enterd the chat.

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u/After_Seaweed4606 Sep 24 '22

Relationships are work, and the best time to find a job is when you have a job.

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u/B33Kat Sep 25 '22

I do. For men anyways. They want to have the girlfriend/wife aka mom to take care of them while also having the freedom to screw anything they want to

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u/Waris-Tx Sep 25 '22

But no tax breaks

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u/the_ringmasta Sep 25 '22

I mean, monogamy is stupid, but cheating is worse.

Just be you and hopefully make that version not an awful person.

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u/Tamtagious Sep 25 '22

Some people are broke and need to keep a roof over their head until they can find another one 🙄

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u/SharkIndustries Sep 25 '22

I've never cheated but I noticed honies holler @ me more when I am in a relationship. Has to be a coincidence because I never post about my relationships online or anything. Idk how to explain it. But it's like they want me to cheat

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u/HourOk2135 Sep 25 '22

Idk, ask my wife...

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u/Stocksugardaddy Sep 25 '22

Only a cheater knows why people cheat!

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u/den773 Sep 25 '22

I don’t understand the ones who get married many times. We have a friend in her 60s got married today for the 4th time. I hope they will be very happy. But also… wtf?

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u/ChatiKathy Sep 25 '22

Most seem to be very afraid of being alone. Hence all the cry’s for attention we see all the time. Basically social media is just one big winge IMO of individuals saying they need to be seen otherwise why be here.

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u/Relaxedtiger330 Sep 25 '22

Realize some people are empowered by totally shaming and breaking the trust of another human being and by inflicting that kind of pain brings them joy! But karma is relentless and the same thing happens to them. A lot of truth to the energy you release comes back!

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u/AthenasApostle Sep 25 '22

It's about power and self satisfaction.

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u/somedumbguy55 Sep 25 '22

Cuddles, that’s why.

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u/[deleted] Sep 25 '22

Amen

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u/lenmylobersterbush Sep 25 '22

After My third kid came to the world a year later my ex started cheating a lot. I became a single dad and was before the divorce. The marriage counselor said it was mid life crisis for here, or her identity was missing, etc....here is what I think, she wasn't happy, and she is selfish (now and then) So she filled the void elsewhere. Obviously, it takes two make relationships work. I'm still not sure what I could have done better, but that was 10 years ago, I've moved on and I'm still raising the kids the best I can.

In the end selfish people will take and take and when they get caught or called it's someone else's fault. They should be able to do what they want even if you can't. There are a couple terms for this, narcissist, psychopath etc. I'm not a medical professional so I'll call it selfish.

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u/TheLion920817 Sep 24 '22

Oof it’s a plague literally

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u/Beneficial-Shine-598 Sep 24 '22

I used to to cheat when I was younger. From around age 15 when I started dating, to around the end of my 20s. All I can say is there were several factors. First, I was the kind of guy who had no trouble getting girls. Not saying I’m special, I’m just not ugly and I’m outgoing and pretty smart. I have always been very social and popular. It just wasn’t hard. Second, I had 2 main characteristics. I loved the idea of romance and being “in love” ….but…. I was also young and horny as hell and loved variety and appreciated a woman’s beauty.

So I always had a long-term girlfriend (several in a row, I think they call that serial monogamy) and I can say I honestly loved each one. Wrote them poetry, sang them songs, treated them like gold, etc. But I always had side chicks that would be willing to have sexual fun on the down low here and there. That provided the sexual variety I also craved.

Why did I stop? A couple reasons. First I realized it was wrong. I was lying and hiding stuff and that’s just not right. Second, I realized it was disrespectful and I wouldn’t want that happening behind MY back. Lastly, my sex drive slowed down as I aged and I just matured.